Role Models for Children

Role models can have an enormous impact on who our children turn out to become. It is important that these people be worthy of emulation, so you should make sure you steer your children in the right direction!

You are the first role model your children have. They learn how to walk and talk and tell the truth by watching you. This is why it is so important to be truthful with your children, and to show them what you want to see from them; they are quick to pick up on hypocrisy.

Show your child how to behave, and teach them by example. If they see you acting in an honorable manner and hear you speak well of others who do the same, they will be encouraged to imitate your behavior.

Promote the values you wish to instill by pointing out good behavior in others, and remind them that others are watching us the same way. Encourage them to be role models to others, especially younger siblings. Remember to follow through and praise them when they set a good example!

Put forth great people in history as examples of role models. Marie Curie was dedicated and unstoppable. Neil Armstrong was brave, Benjamin Franklin was resourceful. Ask your child what famous people they have studied in school, and discuss why they might be good role models.

You can't choose who your children's role models will be. That decision, conscious or not, will be in part influenced by their own aspirations, hopes and dreams - not to mention personality! The best you can do is surround them with good examples, and let them make a choice based on the values you have taught them to respect.

If you see your child admiring someone who isn't an appropriate role model, ask them why they respect that person. If their response is "Because they are pretty" or "They are good at sports", try to get them to research the person more deeply and remind them of your strong family values. Chances are they will find out that the figure they were so eager to praise has a side that disqualifies them from being a role model.

Sit down and discuss what makes a good role model with your child. Make a list of desirable morals, values and qualities. Have your children look for these things in people they know or have read about. One person might not embody every aspect, and it is OK to have more than one role model!